Life Nugget No. 29

 

(This nugget via Justin the Magician, Clint Black and the
YSL Window of 1,000 Kitties at Barney’s… Really, it takes a village on this one.) —

“How is he doing
this?”

The army of 26, sugar-filled, party-crazed five-year-olds
have not moved.

For more than 53 minutes now.

He had us all–parents and children–captivated. Justin
the Magician
, the wunderdude we hired
for Kiddo’s birthday party, managed to shock and awe the group of
somewhat-cynical NYC parents around me. It wasn’t his magic per se (though it
was great), but the fact that he had, somehow, put our children in a giddy
party trance. (I’m thinking it was a magical variation on a Vulcan mind-meld.)

They were riveted.

I was riveted.

For different reasons.

Justin had cast some a spell on these pint-sized party-goers,
and I was definitely impressed (and this 40-year-old Harry Potter-maniac knows
her magic, folks). But, I was more impressed with my kid (sorry, Justin).

I watched as she beamed. Justin had brought her up with him.
To assist him with magic. She did not hesitate. She took command of the space.
Confident, yet goofy. Enjoying every minute of it. Hamming it up in her tulle
skirt and mismatched socks (not from the store of the same name, mind you).

She just turned five.

I wanted her to remember how this feels, every year, every
day.

And then Clint Black’s words popped into my brain.

Oops. Sorry. That was a bit abrupt, huh? You didn’t think
that sentence was coming, did you? Apologies, friends.

You see, the uber-glam, always chic ladies from The MOMS
(Denise and Melissa, of course) had none other than Clint Black gather with
folks for a coffee chat at The Coffee Bean & Tea Leaf over on Third Avenue a
few days before Kiddo’s party. To be honest, I don’t often head to the East
Side, except to visit doctors, but, well, I’m in love, okay, fine, I’m
addicted to coffee and loved Clint on The
Celebrity Apprentice
, so it seemed like a good idea to cross the park and
check it out.

The award-winning singer/songwriter/musician/actor talked
about his latest film Flicka: Country
Pride
(it’s a family affair: he worked with his wife and their 11-year-old
daughter). Discussed traveling over 200 days a year and how he stays connected
with his family. Shared his thoughts on American
Idol.

The conversation quickly turned to how hard it is to raise a
daughter in that bright spotlight of fame, a daughter who now has caught the
acting bug. How he and his wife (yes, Lisa Hartman Black) try to keep her
grounded, keep her away from what we have all read about in US Weekly and other gossip mags – the
young ones, in Hollywood, caught up in that world and all that goes with it.

“We remind her that we are who we are, not who people think we are,” he said, black cowboy hat
perched just so, eyes aglint with this wisdom.

Those words stuck with me as I watched Kiddo up with Justin.
Wearing a red nose so proudly. Aware only of how much fun she was having, so
happy and content with herself, her actions, her choices. Not caring about what
others thought or labels or shoulds or preconceived ideas or pressure to be
something, someone else.

Should I add a “yet” to the end of that statement? How can I
not? We all become influenced by our world, our peers, our expectations of our
self, our life. Staying true to who we are, not who others are or who they say
we should be or, as Clint said, who they think we are…that’s huge life lesson
to learn, no?

How the frakadoo do I teach that?

I’m not sure.

Clint didn’t tell me how.

I thought about the other recent non-doctor time I was on
the East Side. Kiddo was with me, we had to return some
drapes that just didn’t work to Crate & Barrel. We took the crosstown bus
then walked down to 59th street.
And we passed Barney’s. I spotted it first, then she saw it. The window
display that perhaps came straight from a dream of hers.

A store window.

A store window with (what seemed to be) a gazillion kitties.

Plastic.

Yellow.

Waving.

“Mama! It’s perfect!” Kiddo, the cat-obsessed girl, in a
green puffy vest and mismatched Hello Kitty socks, jumped up and down. Twirled.
Danced a happy dance. Passersby stared at us. She didn’t care who saw…or who
didn’t. She was jazzed. She was ecstatic. She counted
them. She named a few. There was Twila, Twitch, Tina, Mia, Martha, Catty.

I took pictures. To document. To capture. To remind me, her.
I hope she never stops having moments like this. I fear the day that she
censors herself. I dread her worries of what is cool or not cool. I cringe at
the possibility of her wondering how she measures up, if she is good enough.

Maybe if I tell her that what makes her her is the answer to those questions. Maybe if I tell her, every
day, that she is all she needs to be. Nothing more, nothing less.

Maybe that will work.

Or maybe Justin has some sort of magic dust…

Thanks to The MOMs,
Clint Black, and the fabulous Justin the Magician (I’m not kidding folks, book
him now!) and the divine folks behind that YSL window at Barney’s. And, of course,
to Kiddo. For turning five…and being just her.

When not blogging for CafeMom, working (ohsoslowly) on her book, or
writing for
New York Family, Heather Chaet documents moments of motherhood, the
little successes and the epic fails here — and on her web site at
heatherchaet.com and in 140 characters on Twitter (@heatherchaet).


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