• Happy Birthday To You…And You, Too!

    Strategies For Celebrating With Twins

    By Natalie Diaz

     

    Double
    the kids, double the gifts, double the cakes, double the celebration! A
    birthday party for twins is a special occasion. With the Diaz Duo most recently
    passing their seventh birthday, our family has a few celebrations under our belt—here are a few tips (and opinions) on making your
    kiddos celebrations rock!

    ONE PARTY OR TWO? Twiniversity
    strongly recommends you stick with one party as long as possible. Yes, your twins are
    two different people, but you can make elements of the party about each child.
    Two parties equals twice the money spent and twice the time planning. If they
    are old enough, let them pick the location. If you have twins with very
    different opinions, you can alternate the celebration’s location each year. The
    Diaz Duo has been lucky to have gender-neutral locations and parties.

    FOR YOUNGER ONES: Between ages
    1-5, consider the traditional route of hosting a party in your home or in the
    back room of a restaurant. We’ve had most of the
    Diaz Duo’s bashes in a private room at La Mela with
    themes like carnival and costume party. Here’s a big cost-saver: sometimes we
    pick themes on clearance at online party stores, saving a ton on decorations and
    goody bags!

    FOR OLDER KIDS: For children ages
    five and over, some of my favorite combo parties are:

    1. Pottery – Trust me, boys get into it. We like
    Chambers Pottery in Tribeca.     

    2. Sports – Make sure it’s one everyone can
    participate in, like soccer or martial arts.

      3. Picnic – Getting a permit from the Parks
    Department will only set you back $25 and     playing games like hot potato or tug-of-war
    require little equipment and are a lot of fun.

    WHO TO INVITE? Let each child
    make their own guest list. Figure out the maximum number of kids you can have
    and, of course, let each child have an equal number of guests.

    INVITES/THANKS YOUS: Send Evites
    to make it easy on yourself, but don’t skip Thank You notes! Teach your kiddos
    the proper etiquette and they will thank you later in life. If your children
    are too young to write, let them finger paint or color a blank card and you can
    write the message for them.

    GIFTS: If your home is overrun with stuff, you
    may want to ask guests to bring a can of pet food for a local shelter or even
    some candy that you can send to the troops via Operation Smile. If this is
    too hard for your children to comprehend, then put all the presents in a closet
    after they are opened and use them one by one, so they are appreciated to the
    fullest.

    ONE CAKE OR TWO? We used to
    only get one cake and re-light the candles, but now the twins argue over
    chocolate vs. vanilla, traditional vs. ice cream—they shouldn’t have to share everything. This year we had THREE cakes
    (one for my husband, too). And most twin families will sing “Happy Birthday”
    twice, alternating who goes first each year.

    FINAL THOUGHTS: No matter how
    you choose to celebrate, it shouldn’t
    cause you more stress than happiness. If you aren’t the type of person who
    likes to plan parties, hand it over to the professionals and let them do the
    work. The kids will be just as happy—and you, even happier.

    Happy
    Birthday To All!

    Natalie Diaz runs the global online network Twiniversity,
    for parents of multiples, and produces
    Multiplicity, a magazine for parents of multiples. She is also a full-time mom
    raising twins in NYC with her husband, John.

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